June 19, 2013
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Linda Robertson, left, and Brenda Powell, both of Gainesville, listen to Harold Kennedy, who with his wife Joni, own Melon Head Farm in Clarkesville. Kennedy described the various types of produce grown and emphasized crop rotation to organically control insect problems. He grows thousands of cantaloupes and watermelons annually, which he markets locally and regionally, hence the “melon head” name.
DONALD FRASER/Staff Linda Robertson, left, and Brenda Powell, both of Gainesville, listen to Harold Kennedy, who with his wife Joni, own Melon Head Farm in Clarkesville. Kennedy described the various types of produce grown and emphasized crop rotation to organically control insect problems. He grows thousands of cantaloupes and watermelons annually, which he markets locally and regionally, hence the “melon head” name.
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Produce bounty cropping up on local farms
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Linda Robertson, left, and Brenda Powell, both of Gainesville, listen to Harold Kennedy, who with his wife Joni, own Melon Head Farm in Clarkesville. Kennedy described the various types of produce grown and emphasized crop rotation to organically control insect problems. He grows thousands of cantaloupes and watermelons annually, which he markets locally and regionally, hence the “melon head” name.
DONALD FRASER/Staff Linda Robertson, left, and Brenda Powell, both of Gainesville, listen to Harold Kennedy, who with his wife Joni, own Melon Head Farm in Clarkesville. Kennedy described the various types of produce grown and emphasized crop rotation to organically control insect problems. He grows thousands of cantaloupes and watermelons annually, which he markets locally and regionally, hence the “melon head” name.
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Northeast Georgia residents are finding more opportunities to eat good food locally grown. The abundant opportunities were on display from June 15 and 16 during the second annual Georgia Mountains Farm Tour. Those on the tour could select one or two days of farm touring and visit up to 16 agriculture product producers, including farms, a beekeeper, a mill, even a farm/aqua-culture operation producing both vegetables and tilapia. Farms were located in Habersham, White and Stephens counties, extending also into both North and South Carolina. Several locales, such as the Lake Rabun Hotel and Restaurant, provided lunch or supper featuring locally grown foods prepared by local chefs. While vegetables, naturally, dominated discussion, offerings being sold also included fruits, freshly baked breads, eggs and honey. While healthy growing, and eating, was a prime topic during the tour, crop rotation and tips on insect control was also discussed. In addition to touring his farm, Steve Whiteman of Trillium Farms showed visitors his micro-green operation, which takes place in the basement of his house during the winter. The basement is heated by a wood-burning stove. Whiteman follows a “warm room concept,” which in addition to heating the basement, also ducts the hot air so it is used “to grow food, dry clothes and heat water,” Whiteman said. The damp air from the dryer also creates a better growing environment for his greens, he said. Heat from the basement is ducted to upstairs rooms in the house. The annual tour is an offspring of the Georgia Mountains Farmers Network. The Georgia Mountains Farmers Network was created in 2011, after Certified Naturally Grown, in 2010, received a grant from the Farmers Market Promotion Program, which allowed it to hire organizers in Georgia and Tennessee. The intent was to develop and strengthen local/community farmer networks. Justin Ellis was hired to organize the group. Certified Naturally Grown is a nonprofit organization offering a certification program which targets small, direct-to-market agricultural producers, including farmers and beekeepers. Certification is for using natural methods, particularly not using genetically-modified seeds, synthetic fertilizers, pesticides, herbicides or fungicides. Ellis was already deeply involved with the local community through his executive director activities with the Soque River Watershed Association. He was also up to his ankles in the garden dirt as co-manager of the Northeast Georgia Locally Grown online farmer’s market, helping to create Clarkesville’s Green Way Community Garden and serving on a committee helping to design the rebuilding of the Habersham County school system’s cannery. Ellis said June 18 that 67 passes for the tour had been sold, with an estimated 200-250 people attending. Approximately $2,500, “not including expenses” was raised, which will help pay for group liability insurance for local GMFN farmers “to sell to any wholesaler,” Ellis said, “primarily so they can sell to the school system.”
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Libraries, pools, transit system remain funded for 2014
by DONALD FRASER
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It took two meetings June 17, but the Habersham County Commission finalized and passed its Fiscal Year 2013- 14 budget. The Habersham County Commission essentially decided at a June 17 work session to spare cutting the county’s transit system from the county’s FY 2013-14 budget. A final decision was slated for the commission’s June 17 regular monthly meeting, which followed the work session. Commission Chairman Chad Henderson said he wanted to “point out” the commission “adopts a budget first, based on priorities of a county.” It is later that the commission “adjusts the millage rate, based on the budget,” Henderson said. The final budget number was $22,513,385, as reported by Habersham County Manager Janeann Allison, which reflects a tax increase. Henderson noted the tax assessor’s office has not yet completed its review of the property digest, but there is an estimated 2-3 percent decrease in the value. Property taxes are the primary revenue source for county government. The revised budget commissioners considered at the work session included additional revenue to be generated by a proposed approximately 1 mill increase in property taxes. The decreasing tax digest value also means each mill assessed generates less revenue, Henderson said. While in the past 1 mill produced $1 million, the decline in tax digest value means a mill will produce $541,000 in revenue. The revised budget had “expenditure cuts along with revenue increases,” Henderson said. Henderson noted county expenses increased even as revenue dropped. Just a few years ago, gasoline was “$1.72 a gallon; now it’s $3.53 a gallon,” Henderson said. “Asphalt was $20,000 a road mile, now it’s at $70,000 a road mile.” At public budget hearings June 11 and 13, “citizens told us ‘guys, you’ve got to do a combination of both’” [budget cuts and tax increase], said Commissioner Sonny James. The revised budget commissioners reviewed dropped consideration of budget cuts to the recreation department, which would have closed the pools at the Ruby C. Fulbright Aquatic Center. Commissioners also dropped consideration of funding cuts to county libraries, which would have required limited operating hours at the two branches. Discussion of cutting a position in the sheriff’s office, previously funded by a grant, was also taken off the table after commissioners learned a family violence/child abuse investigator’s position was at stake. “The pools were never taken out of the budget,” Henderson said. “The libraries were never taken out of the budget.” Henderson explained commissioners had been discussing budget line items where expenses could be cut, including transit, libraries, recreation and the sheriff’s office. While transit had been cut in other working versions of the budget, recreation and library expenses had speculatively been juggled to determine if expenses could be cut and a property tax increase prevented. Opinions and concerns expressed at public hearings last week were taken into consideration by commissioners in preparing the final working version of the budget. The hearings produced an outpouring of support for keeping pools open and maintaining the current level of library services. Commissioners were also urged to continue funding the transit system, because users had few other transportation options. Alluding to the hearings, Henderson said “the experience has been very educational. It was a very civil engagement between the people and their government.” The forums let the public know “we are trying our best to listen to the people,” Henderson said. While the county’s transit system, which is also funded by the federal government and costs the county $17,900 annually, was placed back in the budget, James lamented government having to provide the service. “There are so many churches with vans that sit useless five out of seven days of the week,” James said, advocating a mission outreach into the community. “That’s what used to happen in this county,” he said. “Can we have a set route and times, instead of using it like a taxi?” asked Commissioner Natalie Crawford. “Maybe operate it in a more efficient way? “Something has got to be done,” James said. “People expect government to be everything.” Referring to the public hearings, “the main thing I heard was ‘do everything as efficiently as we can,’” Henderson said. “I was extremely touched by some of the pleas we heard [about the transit system],” said Commissioner Andrea Harper. “As of right now I don’t think we can abandon those people.” There were no public comments about the proposed budget during a public hearing at the commission’s regular meeting. “We have sweated over this budget line by line,” Harper said at the second meeting. People [attending public hearings] were surprised by what the county was required to fund and what the county did not have to fund, but was providing the service, Harper said. “It’s not a perfect budget,” Harper said. “It’s a workable budget.” “We have struggled” in producing the budget, James said. “We have cut a lot of expenses. We have increased revenue.” There was no real discussion of the budget during the regular monthly meeting, including no mention of the estimated 1 mill property tax increase. Commissioners approved the budget 4-1, as amended at its work session, with Henderson voting against. “I have no problem with the budget,” Henderson said, when asked about the dissenting vote after the meeting. He took exception with a revenue figure of $341,000 from vehicle title tax assessments, saying he was not sure the amount was accurate. He was afraid the revenue figure had been accounted for twice. “I definitely want to find out if that is the case,” Henderson said. “I think we could have waited to approve the budget,” Henderson said. “I’m not 100 percent comfortable with that number,” Allison told commissioners during the work session. “That does make me a little nervous.” In other budget-related discussion, commissioners: • Heard $10,000 in revenue had been added for fees to be charged insurance companies for fire department response to alarms; • Tentatively approved an additional $3,000 for the Habersham County Senior Center, which lost $7,000 in funding due to sequestration budget cuts in the federal government. While $5,000 was sought, “I would suggest we put in $3,000,” said Commissioner Ed Nichols, with Crawford and James echoing support; • Generally discussed increasing fees for recreation department activities to increase revenue.
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SOS provides special support for families impacted by suicide
by KIMBERLY BROWN
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Losing a loved one is always hard, but losing a loved one to suicide causes a singular kind of pain and grief that only fellow survivors can understand. This is the idea behind the Survivors of Suicide (SOS) support group, which meets at 6:30 p.m. the third Thursday of every month at Bethlehem Baptist Church in Clarkesville. The group formed about two years ago, when there was a “rash of suicides in the county,” said Betsy Eagar of Clarkesville, one of the trained facilitators of the group. She said the group was founded by then-District 50 State Sen. Jim Butterworth, who “called a meeting of a lot of different people, pastors and other people in the community.” Eagar said each meeting has two facilitators, and one is always a person who is a suicide survivor. Eagar is one of the facilitators who has not lost a loved one. She is a counselor, and she and other facilitators have been trained through The Link Counseling Center in Atlanta and Suicide Prevention Action Network (SPAN) Georgia. One of the facilitators who has lost a loved one to suicide is Natalie Flake Ford of Helen, who lost her husband, Michael, seven years ago. She has written a book about her experience, called “Tears to Joy.” She’s an adjunct professor at Truett-McConnell College and director of a Christian learning center. “I wish there had been something like [the support group] for me when Michael died,” Ford said. “When you lose somebody to suicide, the grief is complicated. Along with the sadness, you deal with a lot of guilt and regret. A lot of times, because of the stigma associated with [suicide], people who have lost somebody to suicide really don’t talk about it, because others don’t understand it unless you’ve experienced it. Being able to be in a group of people who have been through similar pain and can relate is very healing. When I see those moments [of connection] between people in a group, it’s like the light bulb comes on; I see God bringing healing in that moment.” “People who have lost a loved one can comfort each other in ways no one else can comfort them,” Eagar said. “…They realize the way they feel is not weird. Any way you feel when you’re going through something like this is normal.” Newcomers can expect “a very welcoming, loving group,” Eagar said, and Ford agrees. “We don’t have a set agenda,” Ford said. “Everybody talks about how they’re doing, what their struggles are, what’s been hard in the last month, what’s been easier. People generally start sharing their personal experiences. If it’s somebody’s first time to the group, we’ll have everybody in the group share who they lost and how long ago it was. It’s just a time for people to share what’s on their heart.” Dalton Sirmans of Clarkesville works with the group, but not as a trained facilitator. In 1975, Sirmans’ father committed suicide on Sirmans’ 12th birthday, so he sees his role as “showing those newly grieving life can be normal again.” “[My] life is wonderful,” he said. “It’s been normal. There’s a new normal for a lot of these folks that they’ve got to figure out how to deal with, but it does them good to see, years later, that life does go on. There’s a reason they’re still here. … I’d love to put my arms around any of those folks and say, ‘I can tell you, you’ll live through it. It doesn’t have to be THE event of your life.’ You can’t grieve for people. They have to do it themselves and they just need a sympathetic ear.” Sirmans said the group is “not psychotherapy.” Instead, he said, “it’s a sounding board, but it’s more than a sympathetic ear. You’re with people who will understand and love you through the first months and years of it. You learn life throws some tough things at it and this is one of the toughest.” Ford said the group has seen success stories, people who have been able to move on and not need such a group anymore. “One of the things they tell people who have lost loved ones to suicide is, ‘You need to tell your story until you don’t need to tell it anymore.’ I think this group provides a safe place for people to share what happened until they reach the point they’ve found healing and they’re able to move on and they don’t need to talk about it anymore,” Ford said. “We’ve seen people come to the group, and then get to the point where they say, ‘I’m good. I can go on and face life.’ Not that you ever get over something like that. You don’t. But you learn to move forward. And I see a lot of people get to that place.” Eagar said the group also has a lending library of books and resources for members to use, including a book by Iris Bolton, “My Son … My Son: A Guide to Healing After Death, Loss, or Suicide,” which, Eagar said, “is the book for anyone to read who has lost a loved one.” For more information about Survivors of Suicide, call 706-754-4870, ext. 42, or email negasos@yahoo.com.
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Linda Robertson, left, and Brenda Powell, both of Gainesville, listen to Harold Kennedy, who with his wife Joni, own Melon Head Farm in Clarkesville. Kennedy described the various types of produce grown and emphasized crop rotation to organically control insect problems. He grows thousands of cantaloupes and watermelons annually, which he markets locally and regionally, hence the “melon head” name.
DONALD FRASER/Staff Linda Robertson, left, and Brenda Powell, both of Gainesville, listen to Harold Kennedy, who with his wife Joni, own Melon Head Farm in Clarkesville. Kennedy described the various types of produce grown and emphasized crop rotation to organically control insect problems. He grows thousands of cantaloupes and watermelons annually, which he markets locally and regionally, hence the “melon head” name.
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Produce bounty cropping up on local farms
by DONALD FRASER
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DONALD FRASER/Staff
Linda Robertson, left, and Brenda Powell, both of Gainesville, listen to Harold Kennedy, who with his wife Joni, own Melon Head Farm in Clarkesville. Kennedy described the various types of produce grown and emphasized crop rotation to organically control insect problems. He grows thousands of cantaloupes and watermelons annually, which he markets locally and regionally, hence the “melon head” name.
DONALD FRASER/Staff Linda Robertson, left, and Brenda Powell, both of Gainesville, listen to Harold Kennedy, who with his wife Joni, own Melon Head Farm in Clarkesville. Kennedy described the various types of produce grown and emphasized crop rotation to organically control insect problems. He grows thousands of cantaloupes and watermelons annually, which he markets locally and regionally, hence the “melon head” name.
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Northeast Georgia residents are finding more opportunities to eat good food locally grown. The abundant opportunities were on display from June 15 and 16 during the second annual Georgia Mountains Farm Tour. Those on the tour could select one or two days of farm touring and visit up to 16 agriculture product producers, including farms, a beekeeper, a mill, even a farm/aqua-culture operation producing both vegetables and tilapia. Farms were located in Habersham, White and Stephens counties, extending also into both North and South Carolina. Several locales, such as the Lake Rabun Hotel and Restaurant, provided lunch or supper featuring locally grown foods prepared by local chefs. While vegetables, naturally, dominated discussion, offerings being sold also included fruits, freshly baked breads, eggs and honey. While healthy growing, and eating, was a prime topic during the tour, crop rotation and tips on insect control was also discussed. In addition to touring his farm, Steve Whiteman of Trillium Farms showed visitors his micro-green operation, which takes place in the basement of his house during the winter. The basement is heated by a wood-burning stove. Whiteman follows a “warm room concept,” which in addition to heating the basement, also ducts the hot air so it is used “to grow food, dry clothes and heat water,” Whiteman said. The damp air from the dryer also creates a better growing environment for his greens, he said. Heat from the basement is ducted to upstairs rooms in the house. The annual tour is an offspring of the Georgia Mountains Farmers Network. The Georgia Mountains Farmers Network was created in 2011, after Certified Naturally Grown, in 2010, received a grant from the Farmers Market Promotion Program, which allowed it to hire organizers in Georgia and Tennessee. The intent was to develop and strengthen local/community farmer networks. Justin Ellis was hired to organize the group. Certified Naturally Grown is a nonprofit organization offering a certification program which targets small, direct-to-market agricultural producers, including farmers and beekeepers. Certification is for using natural methods, particularly not using genetically-modified seeds, synthetic fertilizers, pesticides, herbicides or fungicides. Ellis was already deeply involved with the local community through his executive director activities with the Soque River Watershed Association. He was also up to his ankles in the garden dirt as co-manager of the Northeast Georgia Locally Grown online farmer’s market, helping to create Clarkesville’s Green Way Community Garden and serving on a committee helping to design the rebuilding of the Habersham County school system’s cannery. Ellis said June 18 that 67 passes for the tour had been sold, with an estimated 200-250 people attending. Approximately $2,500, “not including expenses” was raised, which will help pay for group liability insurance for local GMFN farmers “to sell to any wholesaler,” Ellis said, “primarily so they can sell to the school system.”
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Libraries, pools, transit system remain funded for 2014
by DONALD FRASER
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It took two meetings June 17, but the Habersham County Commission finalized and passed its Fiscal Year 2013- 14 budget. The Habersham County Commission essentially decided at a June 17 work session to spare cutting the county’s transit system from the county’s FY 2013-14 budget. A final decision was slated for the commission’s June 17 regular monthly meeting, which followed the work session. Commission Chairman Chad Henderson said he wanted to “point out” the commission “adopts a budget first, based on priorities of a county.” It is later that the commission “adjusts the millage rate, based on the budget,” Henderson said. The final budget number was $22,513,385, as reported by Habersham County Manager Janeann Allison, which reflects a tax increase. Henderson noted the tax assessor’s office has not yet completed its review of the property digest, but there is an estimated 2-3 percent decrease in the value. Property taxes are the primary revenue source for county government. The revised budget commissioners considered at the work session included additional revenue to be generated by a proposed approximately 1 mill increase in property taxes. The decreasing tax digest value also means each mill assessed generates less revenue, Henderson said. While in the past 1 mill produced $1 million, the decline in tax digest value means a mill will produce $541,000 in revenue. The revised budget had “expenditure cuts along with revenue increases,” Henderson said. Henderson noted county expenses increased even as revenue dropped. Just a few years ago, gasoline was “$1.72 a gallon; now it’s $3.53 a gallon,” Henderson said. “Asphalt was $20,000 a road mile, now it’s at $70,000 a road mile.” At public budget hearings June 11 and 13, “citizens told us ‘guys, you’ve got to do a combination of both’” [budget cuts and tax increase], said Commissioner Sonny James. The revised budget commissioners reviewed dropped consideration of budget cuts to the recreation department, which would have closed the pools at the Ruby C. Fulbright Aquatic Center. Commissioners also dropped consideration of funding cuts to county libraries, which would have required limited operating hours at the two branches. Discussion of cutting a position in the sheriff’s office, previously funded by a grant, was also taken off the table after commissioners learned a family violence/child abuse investigator’s position was at stake. “The pools were never taken out of the budget,” Henderson said. “The libraries were never taken out of the budget.” Henderson explained commissioners had been discussing budget line items where expenses could be cut, including transit, libraries, recreation and the sheriff’s office. While transit had been cut in other working versions of the budget, recreation and library expenses had speculatively been juggled to determine if expenses could be cut and a property tax increase prevented. Opinions and concerns expressed at public hearings last week were taken into consideration by commissioners in preparing the final working version of the budget. The hearings produced an outpouring of support for keeping pools open and maintaining the current level of library services. Commissioners were also urged to continue funding the transit system, because users had few other transportation options. Alluding to the hearings, Henderson said “the experience has been very educational. It was a very civil engagement between the people and their government.” The forums let the public know “we are trying our best to listen to the people,” Henderson said. While the county’s transit system, which is also funded by the federal government and costs the county $17,900 annually, was placed back in the budget, James lamented government having to provide the service. “There are so many churches with vans that sit useless five out of seven days of the week,” James said, advocating a mission outreach into the community. “That’s what used to happen in this county,” he said. “Can we have a set route and times, instead of using it like a taxi?” asked Commissioner Natalie Crawford. “Maybe operate it in a more efficient way? “Something has got to be done,” James said. “People expect government to be everything.” Referring to the public hearings, “the main thing I heard was ‘do everything as efficiently as we can,’” Henderson said. “I was extremely touched by some of the pleas we heard [about the transit system],” said Commissioner Andrea Harper. “As of right now I don’t think we can abandon those people.” There were no public comments about the proposed budget during a public hearing at the commission’s regular meeting. “We have sweated over this budget line by line,” Harper said at the second meeting. People [attending public hearings] were surprised by what the county was required to fund and what the county did not have to fund, but was providing the service, Harper said. “It’s not a perfect budget,” Harper said. “It’s a workable budget.” “We have struggled” in producing the budget, James said. “We have cut a lot of expenses. We have increased revenue.” There was no real discussion of the budget during the regular monthly meeting, including no mention of the estimated 1 mill property tax increase. Commissioners approved the budget 4-1, as amended at its work session, with Henderson voting against. “I have no problem with the budget,” Henderson said, when asked about the dissenting vote after the meeting. He took exception with a revenue figure of $341,000 from vehicle title tax assessments, saying he was not sure the amount was accurate. He was afraid the revenue figure had been accounted for twice. “I definitely want to find out if that is the case,” Henderson said. “I think we could have waited to approve the budget,” Henderson said. “I’m not 100 percent comfortable with that number,” Allison told commissioners during the work session. “That does make me a little nervous.” In other budget-related discussion, commissioners: • Heard $10,000 in revenue had been added for fees to be charged insurance companies for fire department response to alarms; • Tentatively approved an additional $3,000 for the Habersham County Senior Center, which lost $7,000 in funding due to sequestration budget cuts in the federal government. While $5,000 was sought, “I would suggest we put in $3,000,” said Commissioner Ed Nichols, with Crawford and James echoing support; • Generally discussed increasing fees for recreation department activities to increase revenue.
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SOS provides special support for families impacted by suicide
by KIMBERLY BROWN
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Losing a loved one is always hard, but losing a loved one to suicide causes a singular kind of pain and grief that only fellow survivors can understand. This is the idea behind the Survivors of Suicide (SOS) support group, which meets at 6:30 p.m. the third Thursday of every month at Bethlehem Baptist Church in Clarkesville. The group formed about two years ago, when there was a “rash of suicides in the county,” said Betsy Eagar of Clarkesville, one of the trained facilitators of the group. She said the group was founded by then-District 50 State Sen. Jim Butterworth, who “called a meeting of a lot of different people, pastors and other people in the community.” Eagar said each meeting has two facilitators, and one is always a person who is a suicide survivor. Eagar is one of the facilitators who has not lost a loved one. She is a counselor, and she and other facilitators have been trained through The Link Counseling Center in Atlanta and Suicide Prevention Action Network (SPAN) Georgia. One of the facilitators who has lost a loved one to suicide is Natalie Flake Ford of Helen, who lost her husband, Michael, seven years ago. She has written a book about her experience, called “Tears to Joy.” She’s an adjunct professor at Truett-McConnell College and director of a Christian learning center. “I wish there had been something like [the support group] for me when Michael died,” Ford said. “When you lose somebody to suicide, the grief is complicated. Along with the sadness, you deal with a lot of guilt and regret. A lot of times, because of the stigma associated with [suicide], people who have lost somebody to suicide really don’t talk about it, because others don’t understand it unless you’ve experienced it. Being able to be in a group of people who have been through similar pain and can relate is very healing. When I see those moments [of connection] between people in a group, it’s like the light bulb comes on; I see God bringing healing in that moment.” “People who have lost a loved one can comfort each other in ways no one else can comfort them,” Eagar said. “…They realize the way they feel is not weird. Any way you feel when you’re going through something like this is normal.” Newcomers can expect “a very welcoming, loving group,” Eagar said, and Ford agrees. “We don’t have a set agenda,” Ford said. “Everybody talks about how they’re doing, what their struggles are, what’s been hard in the last month, what’s been easier. People generally start sharing their personal experiences. If it’s somebody’s first time to the group, we’ll have everybody in the group share who they lost and how long ago it was. It’s just a time for people to share what’s on their heart.” Dalton Sirmans of Clarkesville works with the group, but not as a trained facilitator. In 1975, Sirmans’ father committed suicide on Sirmans’ 12th birthday, so he sees his role as “showing those newly grieving life can be normal again.” “[My] life is wonderful,” he said. “It’s been normal. There’s a new normal for a lot of these folks that they’ve got to figure out how to deal with, but it does them good to see, years later, that life does go on. There’s a reason they’re still here. … I’d love to put my arms around any of those folks and say, ‘I can tell you, you’ll live through it. It doesn’t have to be THE event of your life.’ You can’t grieve for people. They have to do it themselves and they just need a sympathetic ear.” Sirmans said the group is “not psychotherapy.” Instead, he said, “it’s a sounding board, but it’s more than a sympathetic ear. You’re with people who will understand and love you through the first months and years of it. You learn life throws some tough things at it and this is one of the toughest.” Ford said the group has seen success stories, people who have been able to move on and not need such a group anymore. “One of the things they tell people who have lost loved ones to suicide is, ‘You need to tell your story until you don’t need to tell it anymore.’ I think this group provides a safe place for people to share what happened until they reach the point they’ve found healing and they’re able to move on and they don’t need to talk about it anymore,” Ford said. “We’ve seen people come to the group, and then get to the point where they say, ‘I’m good. I can go on and face life.’ Not that you ever get over something like that. You don’t. But you learn to move forward. And I see a lot of people get to that place.” Eagar said the group also has a lending library of books and resources for members to use, including a book by Iris Bolton, “My Son … My Son: A Guide to Healing After Death, Loss, or Suicide,” which, Eagar said, “is the book for anyone to read who has lost a loved one.” For more information about Survivors of Suicide, call 706-754-4870, ext. 42, or email negasos@yahoo.com.
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